NLP Technique for Emotions

Page Overview

• What is "emotional state".
• Importance of emotional management
• Feedback of participants from New Code NLP course of their experience of emotional management with New Code NLP.
• NLP technique for emotional management

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Definition of Emotional State Management

John Grinder (co-creator of NLP) defines ‘state' as “neurology and biochemistry”. Hence, it means an involvement of the emotions and body.

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Create 'state choice' with New Code NLP

John Grinder would often sayin his New Code NLP courses which I attended, that –
“Problem is not the problem. The state in which you enter the problem is the problem.”
Hence creating state choices is the key to dealing with "problems."

New Code NLP, which was co-created by John Grinder, enables you to create state choices even where you believe there is no choice.

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Professionals Trained to Maintain the Emotional State

Sachin Tendulkar (former Indian cricketer) is widely adored by cricket followers not only because of the number of runs he scored as a batsman but because of the state he maintained no matter what the circumstance he was in. Further, even when the opposition would indulge in 'sledging’ to break his state.

Athletes are trained to ensure that they are able to maintain their state no matter what the situation is on the athletic/sports field.

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Emotional Management

However, maintaining a state is not only essential for athletes but also for every individual since there are multiple situations that challenge our state, and at that moment, it is important to maintain the state.
Certain moments could also involve life-altering decisions.

But as Richard Bandler says–
"Good feelings, good decisions, bad feelings, bad decisions.” 

Situations could involve interactions with individuals and even key moments in our life. However, if you don’t manage the state, the state will manage you.

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Anger Management

When I attended an NLP course of John Grinder, he shared that he had an issue of managing his anger. At the same time, he did not want to completely remove anger, since he said:
"Anger is an appropriate state in an appropriate context when operated out of choice.” 

Hence, since anger can be useful in certain situations, he developed a New Code NLP technique which enables him to get into a state of anger only if he wishes to.

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A Prisoner of the Past?

Many people, in certain situations, choose to become a prisoner of the past. They react to situations and not respond.
They become bound to the past memories and do not operate from the present.
Therefore, they live life through the filters of the past.
Hence, this affects their relationship with others as well as themselves, which further affects their health and well-being.
However, there is always a choice!

In my New Code NLP courses in Mumbai and other cities, an NLP Practitioner experiences and learns many techniques for releasing the emotions attached to memories and people.
As a result, this allows that individual to operate from the present and thereby live life fully. 

Remember, life doesn’t happen to you; life happens for you.

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NLP Technique for emotional management

NLP Technique Exercise:

As Richard Bandler (co-creator of NLP) says: 
“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.
Why wait for years and look back on your life and laugh it over...why not now?” 

An simple NLP exercise to work on a state which gets affected when you even think of a person (unrelated to you in terms of family or anyone you need to take seriously) who is annoying/irritating:

1 – Give yourself the permission to enjoy this exercise at the expense of the person who annoys you. 

2 - Imagine the person who annoys/irritates you is at a distance away from you.

3 – Make a clear visual representation of the person i.e. the clothing, hairstyle, skin color, facial expression, and a clear auditory representation of the statements he/she talks which annoy you, i.e., the words used, as well as the tone, volume, pitch of the comments.

4 - When the representation is clear, as you look at the head of the person, just imagine the hair color becoming purple or pink or yellow or any of them, or it keeps changing till it makes you laugh. You can change the hairstyle too.

5- Now imagine the clothing style and color changes into flashy, or keep imagining the person with the clothing style that makes you laugh. You can change the footwear color and style as well.

6 – Imagine the person saying those same statements that were annoying you but this time in a funny tone and pitch. Change into the tone, pitch into the tone of a cartoon character, or the voice of a character you don’t believe in.

7- Test – Open your eyes. Think about the person again. If you don’t take the person seriously and/or you laugh, you have successfully changed how you feel about the person. 
(If you still feel a bit annoyed, repeat steps 4th,5th, and 6th till you don’t take that person seriously and/or you laugh) 

There is a similar technique taught to people who are anxious about public speaking where they simply imagine the audience wearing funny clothing.

In my NLP courses, I train NLP Practitioners with several NLP techniques to manage and enhance their emotions as well as on anyone they wish to apply the techniques on.

For further information about NLP and NLP certification courses, visit:

New Code NLP Course Contents

NLP Coaching Life Skills

For other articles, visit:
What is NLP?
What is New Code NLP?
Criticisms of NLP.

NLP Articles


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